Family enjoy in sunset together.
As a parent there are decisions that I wish I could have made, would have done or should have done.
There are definitely decisions and choices in life that we look back on and wish we had done differently. If only I had tried that therapy, changed schools or did more research. But if we hadn’t made that decision then we wouldn’t have learned from that experience that led to the current outcome. Who knows if that outcome is the decision I should have made in the first place which created a more resilient son helping him learn how to deal with rejection later in life.
It is inevitable that our children will grow up to become adults. And for the most part be independent enough to live on their own. I know some of us have a hard time letting go because we have done so much for our children and we are afraid they can’t do it on their own. It is difficult to watch our kids fail. But don’t think of failure as falling down but failing up. Our job as parents is to lead them on a path towards being responsible and independent. The decisions we might regret are all part of the learning experience for you and your child.
To help support me on my journey I turned to the Learning Disabilities Association of Georgia, a state affiliate of the Learning Disabilities Association of America. I found myself getting more involved, meeting other parents in my situation and connecting with professionals. I then got more involved in the LDA and now serve on the board of directors where I have been privileged to meet other parents going through similar journeys and professionals who have guided some of my decisions. Most of all I have made lifelong friends.
So the next time you start thinking, “I could’ve, would’ve, should’ve..”, think back to what you learned from that situation and move forward with confidence. Seek out others to guide you when you have questions and know you are doing the best job possible given each situation.
In May I joined a group of independent educational consultants and toured five schools/ programs in two days along the beautiful Connecticut shoreline. While each serve students with individualized needs they each do it in a very different way.
Our first stop was The Grove School in New Haven, Connecticut. This small co-educational therapeutic boarding school meandered across a country road. Three very engaging students guided us around campus showing us the academic buildings, health center, residence halls and even their farm animals complete with a chicken coop. The Grove School specializes in helping kids 7th through 12th grade with social, emotional and learning challenges that have impacted the quality of their lives. The Grove School helps each student understand themselves and their needs while meeting their academic achievements in a safe and supportive environment. They also offer a post-graduate/transition program “tailored to the student’s individual interests, capabilities, and goals. This includes opportunities to gain further education at local colleges, adult educational programs, trade and technical schools, as well as employment, and volunteering experiences.”
It’s down to the wire, time to make the final college choice. Having more than one college choice is an exciting opportunity for any student and their parents. And while factors such as location, size, campus life and majors are important there are other data points to consider that might help tip the scale. Here are a few items to consider to help make the difficult choice:
College Testing Resources
Colleges and Universities That Do Not Use SAT/ACT Scores to Admit Substantial Numbers of Students Into Bachelor Degree Programs
Financial Aid Resources
Net Price Calculator
Tool to Determine your Net Price to Attend a College or University.
Other College Selection Resources
College Completion Rates:
List of Graduation Rates from Public four-year colleges, Public two-year colleges, Private four-year colleges, For-profit four-year colleges, For-profit two-year colleges.